Ahhhh the bridal shower. Torturing bride’s since God knows when. Kidding… Kind of.
Bridal Showers are meant to “shower” the bride to be with love and presents. But for some brides, like me, they can be so dang awkward. I’ve never really been someone who likes to be the center of attention, and having 30 pairs of eyes staring at your while you open presents just wasn’t really my idea of a great time. (Talk about making my anxiety straight skyrocket.) I honestly was SO NERVOUS just thinking about my bridal showers. Luckily, none of them were quite as awkward as I expected. And chances are, they won’t be for you either, especially if you follow my Top 10 Tips for Surviving Your Bridal Showers!
- Dress to Impress… yourself. That’s right. Don’t wear something just because you think it is what you should wear to your bridal shower. Wear something that makes you feel like a million bucks. Personally, the second I look in the mirror and actually like how I look, my confidence levels instantly increase. Also, don’t feel like you have to wear white. The thought of wearing white stressed me out because I was terrified I would spill on myself and have a huge stain on myself in every picture. When shopping for your outfits, remember… you can where whatever you want, you’re the bride!
- Have a drink. This is the one time I’m going to tell you, have a drink before you go, or as soon as you get there. It will help calm your nerves, and ultimately make small talk just a little bit easier. But remember, don’t go overboard. The last thing anyone wants is the bride to show up completely toasted.
- Keep it small. Asking your hostess to keep your shower small if possible will help to ease your anxiety. If you know everyone there, and are comfortable with them, opening gifts with eyes on you will feel more like Christmas at Grandma’s and less like you’re giving a speech in your underwear. The first shower I had, my Aunt’s on my mom’s side gave me. It was just the 9 of us (Me, my mom, my grandma, my three aunts, my only girl cousin on that side, and my cousin’s girlfriends) and it was perfect. I wasn’t uncomfortable, I had zero anxiety, and I was able to truly enjoy my time.
- Don’t worry. I tend to worry about absolutely everything no matter what the situation is. And one worry starts a chain reaction to lead to many other worries. I remember for the shower that my mother in law had for me I was terrified before we left for it. The night before/ morning of hadn’t gone as planned for everyone, and we were all already stressed out. On top of that, there was going to be so many people there I hadn’t met yet, or had only met one time. I was so terrified that I wasn’t going to remember someone, or call them the wrong name. I was worried they would be bored watching me open gifts. I was worried I wouldn’t thank the right person. I was basically just giant walking panic attack. But everyone there was so kind, and didn’t expect me to be the “hostess with the mostess”. Chances are, all your worries are for nothing. Most guests know what they are in for when they come to a bridal shower, and are genuinely interested in seeing what gifts you’re opening. They know bridal showers aren’t meant to be ragers, and are happy to sit with their family and friends and just chat.
- Don’t feel guilty. You don’t have to feel bad that people are spending an entire afternoon focusing on you. You shouldn’t feel guilty that people are bringing you gifts. You shouldn’t worry that you’re taking up too much of people’s time. Whoever is coming to your shower is coming to celebrate you, and they want to be there. They want to partake in this special time with you, and they wouldn’t want you to feel guilty in anyway at all. Remember, everyone gets a turn in the spotlight. Try to embrace yours.
- Lean on your MOH. Chances are, your Maid of Honor is going to be right by your side. And since she probably knows you better than you know yourself, she’ll pick up on you being nervous. And she’ll know exactly how to chill you out. Mine kept whispering inside jokes to me and it made me smile and get out of my own head.
- Keep it relaxed. If your hostess asks you what kind of bridal shower you would like, suggest something relaxed. While fancy bridal showers are beautiful, if you’re a bit of an introvert or shy, a relaxed atmosphere will do wonders for your anxiety. One of my Aunt’s gave Trev and I a couples shower. It was so laid back, yet so dang perfect. It was like going to any other cookout/bonfire at my grandmas house (one of our favorite things to do) but it was decorated so cute, and she had all of our favorite foods. We didn’t have to try to be fancy, we didn’t have to worry if we were using the right fork, we could just be ourselves.
- Eat. For heaven’s sake, eat whatever food is at your shower. Especially the dessert. You will feel a million times better with some food in your belly. Plus, whoever your hostess is loves you very much, and knows you very well, so chances are, your favorite foods will be there for you to chow down on.
- Bring your Boo. If you can, bring your man along with you. I know that whenever Trev is by my side, I feel like I can conquer anything. This is why I’m such a HUGE advocate of the couples shower. I mean, life is better when you’re together… doesn’t that mean parties are better when you’re together too?
- Be appreciative. Take a minute to step back and look around you. It’s pretty awe inspiring to realize that all of the people there care so much about you. They’ve put so much time and planning into this day because they want the shower they are throwing to reflect just how much they love you. And when you realize this, and take it all in, I can almost guarantee that every worry, and every ounce of anxiety will simply vanish.
Surviving your bridal shower will be easier than you think, I promise! I was blessed to have 3 completely different, yet completely perfect showers. My aunts, mother in law and sister in law did such an amazing job, that I totally want to show their showers off just a little bit. SO if you want to see some pictures, just keep scrolling.
And if not, I hope you’re having a happy Wednesday! We’re packing up because we’re leaving tomorrow after work for Kentucky 🙂 Hellllllo long weekend, I’ve been waiting for you!
My first shower was a complete surprise! It was just me and all the ladies from my mom’s side. It was perfect. We had all desserts (the best part of any meal) played a few games, and got to enjoy our time together.
My second shower was totally different. Trev’s mom and sister in law had a big party for me at a local restaurant called The Stable. The decorations were totally me (I mean pink and glitter and sparkles. What more could you ask for?!) and the food was delicious! (That wrap was to die for.) They put so much work into making it such a special day for me, and I had such a fun time. It was perfect!
My last shower was a Couples Shower that my godmother/Aunt had for Trev and I. We had THE BEST TIME. My whole family was there, we ate, played games, sat by the fire, and just enjoyed being together. We felt so dang loved. They took so much time and put so much thought into every little part of the day. It was perfect.
I am truly so blessed with having the most incredible people in my life. I don’t think I’ve ever felt quite as special/loved as I did after leaving each and ever shower. I’m so darn grateful for each and every one of them.